There are 3 ways:
1) Just decap them like normal. Lots of people do this and I've never heard of anything happening. Wear safety glasses just in case.
2) Chamber an empty case and set it off and then decap like normal. DO NOT DO THIS INSIDE! Primers contain lead styphnate, as well as other very harmful substances like powdered aluminum. This is why indoor ranges have such high tech ventilation systems. Unless your basement has a million dollar HVAC system, do this outside. This also makes your bore absolutly filty.
3) Kill the primer with hoppes #9 by letting a few drops sit in the case for a few days and then decap. The primer will be dead and cannot be set off. Refer to this thread on CGN for more info:
http://www.canadiangunnutz.com/forum...&highlight=oil