Sorry to tell you Iron Brew, but I'm not aware of an aftermarket alternative to the TIPM from the dealer. The reason they are so expensive is because they truly are the central hub of the vehicle's electrical system - for the CAN bus systems on the Dodge/Ram pickups from '06-'08 ('09 for the 2500 & 3500) they are the actuator and power source for the lighting, many accessories, even the transfer case. There is simply a lot going on in that little black box and the more complex a machine, the more likely a fault.
Before you condemn the TIPM, I would seriously look at making sure the harness is in good shape by disconnecting both ends of the circuits that are wiggy and then using a test light to load them This makes sure they can carry current, not just show "continuity" with an ohmmeter. Also, especially with headlights and other higher draw devices, make sure the female connector terminals still have good tension on them, both at the device (light, etc.) and the TIPM. It's best to triple check your circuits before condemning the expensive control module for that circuit.
One thing to note as well - TIPM's need to be configured to the vehicles in which they are installed. This requires a factory Chrysler scan tool. Some aftermarket shops are part of what's called "Tech Authority," a Fiat/Chrysler aftermarket support network with factory tools and information, but mostly dealers have that tool. The scan tool has to connect with the Chrysler server, get the vehicle build information from them (every Chrysler VIN has a file on the server with its original factory build information), and then configure the TIPM so that it knows what it needs to control. The same TIPM part number is used on a variety of vehicles, so it needs to know which inputs and outputs to use and which to ignore. I've heard of other tricks like flicking the ignition on and off, various power up strategies, etc., and even tried some of them, but still had to use a scan tool in the end.
So, sorry to tell you, but it's a dealer thing. Not just saying this because I am a tech at a Dodge dealer, it's just what it is. One recommendation I would give you as preventive maintenance is use a little dielectric grease on the TIPM connectors. Keeps the moisture out.
Hope this helps, and I'm hoping you just have a rubbed wire that's easy to find or something simple