My land and the mother in laws dog...

[sns2]

Here’s my serious response. Sounds to me like you have been quite accommodating during your marriage toward MoMMy-InLaW DearEsT. Doesn’t matter how long you’ve been married, this one is worth a sit down conversation, telling her that you will not have it, and by her actions to date on this issue, it feels to you like she does not take your thoughts into consideration under a roof that you jointly own. And, from this point forward, the dog can roam back and forth on a cable strung between two posts, which your counselor (that would be me) suggested is a fair and reasonable compromise between the dog’s safety while at your acreage, and your need for respect, both from her and your neighbours in the area. If she doesn’t like it. Tough sht for her. Seriously.

[Phil McCracken]

Originally Posted by Jays toyz

My wife and I are developing land to build a house on eventually. It is 15 acres with half being bush. We have a Campsite set up with 2 pads . The land has crown on 2 sides and has daily moose, elk, deer as well as a cougar, grizz, 3 blacks and a wolf in a month.
My mother in law comes to visit and brings her stupid not fixed male std poodle who runs amok. He has ran up on county employee stopping across the road.
I have some concerns I fight with my wife over and is "unfair" to leash it.

1. It's going to bring an angry bear or moose back to camp
2. It's running off my deer and elk I love to have around
3. It's going to cause an issue with the county for us or our dog.
4. The hollering for its return interferes with my zen

If I had a set of posts rules it would be

No surface shi*****
Close the gate
Dogs under control
No ruts. (don't drive off the road if it's soggy)

2 of which are a problem for her and I I don't yet have a gate
My wife says I make her feel unwelcome but everyone hates her dog. He's just an *****.

Am I just being a whining bitc*?

Well. pretty simple to me:

MIL is a flake and I would tell her to keep her rogue mutt out of there. If she don't like it...tough!

And I would tell her daughter (your wife) the same thing...

Man up friend!

But that is what I would do...

Your call...

[MountainTi]

Originally Posted by 270person

1. Get memo out to Grizz buddy that Fifi will be in attendance this wknd.

2. Liberally coat MIL and Fifi with honey and beaver blood

3. Encourage Fifi to run free and make MIL a nice picnic lunch she can consume near perimeter of property

4. Pull up a chair, crack a brewski, and enjoy the spectacle as you mull the end result. Either of MIL or Fifi becomes grizz scat? Problem solved.

Best option so far. Just for good measure, I'd add a good coat of bacon grease as well

[3blade]

Huntinstuff has some good thoughts.

I’d suggest leashing the other dogs, scattering exlax filled steak bites when you go to “take a leak” - stupid dog will find it and sh.. hose everything the MIL owns. It’ll be ok after a few days but I doubt you’ll find yourself with unwanted company again.

But seriously if your wife doesn’t back you over a stupid dog, you’re headed for trouble.

[58thecat]

Originally Posted by sns2

Why in hell are you so calm, cool, and collected??? I was hoping out of you something like…

“I have connections in the military, and in the dirty underbelly of Cold Lake and surrounding area. One call and I can have the rude old lady on crutches, and the dog turned to ashes.”

But Oh no, you bring out the inner Dr Phil.

Walk on the wild side.

Let your hair down.

Go Rastafarian on us for once

My psychologist said to no longer play in the dark zones....

[Rvsask]

I’d go with the power ram route and wouldn’t lose a second’s sleep over it.

[Ackleyman]

Here's the drill MIL ,Dog stays home. Dont like it ? You stay home too. End of story.

[Smoky buck]

Originally Posted by Ackleyman

Here's the drill MIL ,Dog stays home. Dont like it ? You stay home too. End of story.

It’s about that simple anything else is just over complicating things and wasting effort on disrespectful people

[Dewey Cox]

If it was up to you, you'd have done something about it already.
Nothing on the internet is going to change things.

[Sledhead71]

Your concerns are valid and you should be respected by both your MIL and her daughter... Good luck solving the issue and keeping the peace.

Animal are a reflection of their owners, it's alarming the amount of members who advocate for harm to the dog. What a sad world we live in where solutions offered are based on harming the dog.

[Grizzly Adams1]

Originally Posted by Ackleyman

Here's the drill MIL ,Dog stays home. Dont like it ? You stay home too. End of story.

That's how you get cut out of the will.

Grizz

[Big Sky]

Every situation can use a little humour. With apologies to the OP.

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So, I tell the wife that her mom's dog is raising h*ll around the place and with the neighbours. I ask her to talk to her mom and come up with a solution that everyone ( especially me ) can live with.

She says that she can't do it because her mom is really strong willed and loves her dog so much.

Me: " You're starting to sound like my ex-wife."

Her: " You never told me that you were married before."

Me: " I wasn't!! "

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or

In the words of my hunting partner, " New wife, happy life! "

[ghfalls]

The trouble with other peoples dogs is that everyone thinks their dog is the best dog in the world. Even if it the most poorly behaved dog you’ve ever met. I think you should volunteer to take the dog camping out there for a few days and teach him some rules and some manners. Maybe with a choke chain and a shock collar. Who knows, you may even come to like the dog. Because if she hasn’t trained it yet, she likely never will.

[Stinky Buffalo]

Originally Posted by Big Sky

In the words of my hunting partner, " New wife, happy life! "

No, no, noooo!

In the words of Frank Barone: "When you have woman troubles, you don't go out and get another one... Then you have twice the woman troubles!"

[fishtank]

Nature will take care of it …

[bessiedog]

Hate to add to this...... but...

Had a buddy loong time ago. Used to catch roaming dogs from the acreages around the area that harassed his horses n geese. He'd spraypaint "DEAD" in red on them and let them return.

He actually never had ANY of those dogs back on his property.


pretty innovative.

[-JR-]

I think you worry to much about it ,just let the dog run with the bears and the cougars . Just sit back and enjoy your area If the bears and cougars don't spook the game away neither will this dog . Just don't help looking for the dog every day . Let the owner figure that one out when you tell her the guy down the road has lost a few dogs over the years . May be have a buddy stop in and say he lives down the road and has been looking for his German Shepard for a week and things that cougar is back. Mother in-laws normally will believe a stranger before she will believe a son in law . Lol

[Grizzly Adams1]

Originally Posted by -JR-

I think you worry to much about it ,just let the dog run with the bears and the cougars . Just sit back and enjoy your area If the bears and cougars don't spook the game away neither will this dog . Just don't help looking for the dog every day . Let the owner figure that one out when you tell her the guy down the road has lost a few dogs over the years . May be have a buddy stop in and say he lives down the road and has been looking for his German Shepard for a week and things that cougar is back. Mother in-laws normally will believe a stranger before she will believe a son in law . Lol

Or, just have the neighbor drop by and announce , if that dog shows up again, he won't be coming home.

Grizz

[Cement Bench]

should stay out of this bad situation but here goes

agree with most of the posts

the bigger problem is the ongoing or not relationship with the in law or soon to be outlaw

if you don’t draw a firm bold line in the sand you will be browbeaten by both the wife and the matha FOREVER

not saying your marriage is in trouble

BUT IT IS

in the first decade a couple struggles, positions, negotiates and fiddles around drawing lines and boundaries in their relationship

if you don’t be gentle in the words but firm in the message

BIGGER TROUBLES LIE AHEAD

sorry to be so futuristic but the s the breaks

take care and yes this is one of the hills to die on

later and showing the wife and the mil this thread may have some interesting consequences

[kritz]

Have you had a civil conversation with your wife?
As mentioned this seems to be a reasonable first step and any respect would bring results. Your asks are not unreasonable. Unless she physically cannot do some of the requests, ( gate,walk) Is she 50 - 80 or 95 age group?

Or you can listen to the other half of the AB Outdoorsman council. But maybe that is why there are so many "looking for Divorce Lawyer" post on here.

[graybeard]

The shock collar is on the wrong animal.....

Unfortunately something sad will come to the dog who is only doing what an untrained dog will do.....

Shame on the MIL and maybe even more on the wife.....because the wife agrees with you.....Yet takes her side....OUCH...A lot going on there.

Just sayin...

Good luck

[Mavrick]

Well I'm not going to suggest anything. But I do know one thing, this is going to consume you until you do something. The longer you keep it in side boiling up the worst it's going to be on you, and those around you.

I think you need to lead, follow or get out of the way.

[JD848]

Slap back a bottle of good whiskey and a couple Viagra and pair of summer shorts and I mean a real tight pair . You may just have a happier family then you thought.

On the serious side I would tell my wife to fix this deal or I will in one heck of a hurry .