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Originally Posted by W921
What do you do if your wife of twenty five years suddenly leaves you and your kids without warning and won't even answer her phone?
What if you just can't believe it?
Am I going to get a registered letter from her lawyer in a year?
She is coming into inheritance.
Not knowing what's going to happen is driving me crazy with stress.
I dont want to sell off. Cash split of assets won't replace it.
Lawyer I spoke with wants $5000 just for retainer.
I can't believe this.Doesn't seem real. When it starts to feel real i can't function.
I can't live in town or on an acreage somewhere. Its about way of life and not being able to change.
Physically I can't start over. Had to postpone surgery because of her taking off.
I just can't believe it.
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Sorry to hear that, I can't imagine how tough that would be. But as tough as it is remember there will be a time when you come out the other side. Feel the pain now and realize it is genuine and real but don't stay in that place too long. It will come in waves but remain strong and think about the future.
When your feeling up to it and can stay focused start finding a lawyer. I don't remember my retaining fee but it sure wasn't 5k. Even before consulting a lawyer just create a very simple hand written page and create of list of stuff you need to do. Child support, bank accounts, RRSP's, shared assets.........figure out exactly where you are now and where you need to be and the end of it. Get in the drivers seat of this situation because waiting for a letter in a year will hurt all over again. Think of it as ripping off a Band-Aid now so you can start to build a better future.
One more tip, document everything! Especially if she just got up and left you and the kids. Document and keep organized and focused! Hoping for the best for you.