Did it about twelve years ago. After 10 years of marriage and two kids just found we were at different places.
Remember the words of my lawyer..."if either of you gets into a ****ing match the only ones who win are the lawyers" (this of course is based on neither one of us being millionaires).
Added the value of everything we owned since the marriage (house, cars etc) and split 50/50. Agreed to co-parent the kids 50/50.
She completely agreed (lucky there...if one person doesn't agree it can get ugly).
I remember I paid my lawyer a retainer of $2000.00 A year later the divorce decree came in the mail and a cheque for $127...the amount of the retain that hadn't been used.
We still talk on a weekly basis regarding the kids (now 16 and 17) who are both doing great. One apprenticing for a auto mechanics, the youngest headed for university. The boys and I spent last week making a drum with a local drum-maker for their mothers birthday in a few days.
Divorce doesn't have to be ugly.
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