brlsk, I am so sorry for your news. If you want to fight it, and they won't give you Chemo please try these folks if you have any funds available.
http://www.issels.com/#sthash.R71zv8T5.dpbs
This is the clinic that my MIL went to after they said up here that she couldn't do Chemo anymore and within 2 weeks they had the tumor in her lung down to half the size.
They have helped a ton of people which I saw with my own eyes while down there. The doctors help you change your lifestyle to assist in the fight and are good at finding either generic brands of drugs or working with the folks that have coverage down there to "work things out." I know it is a bit of an alternative medicine treatment but it actually works. There was a huttertie woman down there at the same time from SK and she had come in a wheelchair and left walking full blast under her own steam. It is only 3-4 weeks usually and they have places to stay. If you want to speak to me about it PM me and I can give you my number.